

Q & A with Nobel Prize Winner Doris Lessing (Literature) for ‘12 Most Influential Women in History’ for Singles Magazine, Korea
Writer’s Note: Lessing was almost 90 years old when we spoke and coupled with a bad phone connection (me in L.A., her in the UK) plus her irritation at my personal questions, this proved to be a challenging interview! In the end, she hung up on me!
By: Darrah de jour
Ddj- In recent years, ‘golden singles’ have been one of the most discussed phenomenon in Korean media. ‘Golden singles’ is the term used to describe women with professional careers who prefer to stay unmarried and enjoy the freedom to date men and spend their time for themselves. But in Korea, at least to some people, equality between the two sexes means the end of the concept of family as they know it; and to many – men and women alike – ‘golden singles’ are people who ‘failed’ to get married. We’d like to know what you think about this and the importance of marriage.
DL: A lot of women who don’t get married are perfectly happy. There’s nothing wrong with it at all.
Ddj- A dilemma single Koreans face in life seems to come from the fact that people are not free from the eyes of millions of beholders. There are too many ‘standards’ to meet; people are not allowed to fail! Would you have any advice/suggestions for ones who want to break free?
DL: Live as if the standards don’t exist. Do what you want.
Ddj- Do you feel that you’ve done what you’ve wanted? Lived how you’ve wanted to?
DL: Yes, I’ve done what I wanted and it’s worked very well.
Ddj- Do you believe that the rights of women in the modern world are truly being enhanced? Did you witness some significant progress? Do you see any sector that needs to be ‘opened up’ for women?
DL: Yes, there’s been a lot of progress, things are far better than they used to be. They are much better where I am, I’m not sure about your country.
Ddj- What do you think the word ‘freedom’ means for women?
DL: That’s a silly word. Freedom. If you are referring to the chapter in my book The Golden Notebook titled “Free Women” it was meant in an ironical sense. Because the women in the story were far from free or behaving as free. They were continually making decisions as if they were not free. As if they were bound to something else.
Ddj- What do you think people are bound by?
DL: Oh, bound by all kinds of societal ties. They make decisions as if they were not…as if they were bound.
Ddj- What ideas and thoughts do you want your readers to have after reading your books? Is there anything that you aim to ‘provoke’?
DL: At the very least, criticism of society. I don’t write in order to change ideas. I sort of write as I see I have to. Not trying to change anyone’s idea.
Ddj- What advice would you like to give to single women who will be mothers in the not-too-distant future?
DL: That’s an extraordinary question. My advice is, when they have a child their lives are changed completely. Nothing they’ve heard will represent what actually happens. Words cannot adequately describe it.
Ddj- Tell me about your latest work The Cleft. What was your inspiration for that? Had you carried the idea for awhile and it developed slowly, or was it something that came to you suddenly?
DL: I developed it over a time, especially recently. It’s an anti-war book. When I wrote the anti-war novel, it was because of war continually springing up everywhere. The latest Israel/Gaza one. Anyone who has lived through a war knows it’s a terrible thing. If everybody did, they’d think twice about starting one.
Ddj- In Alfred and Emily, you rewrite a life for your mother where her talents are recognized and her funeral is attended by hundreds. If you could rewrite your own life, what would be different for you?
DL: I would have been happier as a traditional farmer. I was brought up on a farm.
Ddj- Really, I find that fascinating. So you think you would have had more peace?
DL: Peace? What makes you think I’m interested in peace? (Laughs.) I think I would have been happier doing that then the way things have gone.
Ddj- More than being a writer?
DL: Yes.
Ddj- Famed Author Jane Smiley has said that because of your novel The Golden Notebook, she believed at age 20 that “a woman could write about anything.” Is there anything you wouldn’t write about?
DL: Never crossed my mind. Why would it? You know this country has a long tradition of women writers, dating back to the 17th Century. Women have been writing about everything. And they should.
Ddj- Did you ever think that in your lifetime, you would witness the son of an African man becoming president of The United States?
DL: No. Never would. It’s an extraordinary, wonderful thing.
Ddj- What strides do you think Barack Obama will make to better the United States?
DL: Well he couldn’t have made it worse! You know, the U.S. has had this bad presence for four years. He’s got something of a job to put things right. So much is hoped for from him.
Ddj- What impact, if any, do you think his presidency has on closing the gap for a woman to become president?
DL: Well, we nearly did with Hillary Clinton. I think she would’ve made an excellent president. But, it’s a matter of luck.